“The curious paradox is, that when I accept myself as I am, then I can change.”

Right now I’m reading “On Becoming a Person” by Carl Rogers, and it has me so inspired.

Rogers was a great American Psychologist and founder of the humanistic psychology movement. He was a pioneer and a rebel of his time and challenged contemporary Psychology with his client-centered approach that focused on the growth and the potential of all people.

This was all pretty rebellious back in his day, and this same thinking is what drew me to coaching after years of planning to be a therapist.  (that’s a story for another day.)

We get constant messages, especially as women, telling us we’re not good enough, and at the same time that if we truly expressed all that we are, we’d be too much.

Living in a patriarchal society, it’s easy to get caught up believing these things, and that’s a toxic and dangerous space to live in.

• When you place rigid rules onto yourself and feel the need to get permission in order to step out in the full range of your fullness, you cut yourself off from your expression and your potential.

• When you feel like you can only allow yourself pleasure if you “earn” it, or work for it, you cut yourself off from your innate feminine flow and ease.

•  When you believe that you fundamentally need to change in some way in order to be worthy – of love, of acceptance, of success- you stay cut off from your magic, your wholeness, and your power.

The first step in reclaiming these parts of you, in reclaiming your power, is to learn to love and accept yourself just as you are.

I’m here to tell you that it’s OK to be seen in your completeness. All of you- cracks, flaws, imperfections- is worthy of all that you desire.

In a world that wants you to believe that your value lies in all that you do for others, that wants you to work and grind and hustle so hard to do it all that you stay depleted with your light dimmed,
in a world like this,
self-care and self-love become revolutionary acts. 

So this is my permission to you to live your life full out.

To live your life for you and no one else,

To allow yourself all the little things you love, because you don’t need a permission slip for pleasure.

As a coach, I believe that no matter what you’ve gone through, or what you are going through, you are still worthy, whole, and complete.

I believe that by connecting to your heart and your soul you connect to your power,
and that through learning to love yourself you learn to step out as the person you were meant to be,
that person you are already becoming,
expressed, joyful, and free.

If you need help remembering, let’s talk.

I deeply want to support you.